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I Am My Best When I …
We all know that feeling, that feeling we get when we know we are on the right path. There is that sense of balance that comes over us and embraces our hearts with the most perfect warmth. It’s that moment when we feel like everything is perfect and we are content. We couldn’t ask for anything more or anything less. We are finally at home with ourselves and ready to face whatever the world throws at us. When we are not at balance, there are doubts and concern. We feel although we are hitting obstacles instead of pathways. This...
read moreLiving with Alcoholism: Seeking a Support System
Dealing with a loved one’s alcoholism can take away from your self-esteem and your ability to trust your own sense of judgment. You may start out positive and very out-going and then turn into someone you no longer know. Instead of having hope for the future, you may only feel despair. Instead of feeling a sense of confidence in your life choices you may find yourself second guessing your decisions or feel a sense of fogginess. Just as alcoholism has stages of progression for the alcoholic it also has stages of progression for the...
read moreLiving with Alcoholism: When have you had enough?
Once we start to acknowledge that our loved ones have a problem with alcoholism or another addiction that impairs their ability it is up to us to decide when we have had enough of being involved with them. There are always excuses. There are always apologies, but actions speak the loudest of words. It is up to us to be honest with ourselves and truly look at the relationship for what it really is. We have to separate the fact that our alcoholic may be our relatives, friends, or spouse and we have to look towards our own future and...
read moreLiving with Alcoholism: Who has the addiction?
Family members of alcoholics often focus their energy on the problem being the alcoholic. They do not realize that their involvement and responses play a key role in the alcoholic’s life. Where there is an alcoholic, there is usually an enabler lurking in the background. The enabler is the one that provides care to the alcoholic in a way that is not always healthy. One of the definitions of “enable” is to “make things possible.” This is exactly what an enabler to an alcoholic does. The enabler makes it...
read moreWhy can I never just sit down and make myself write?
Don’t feel bad at all if you have trouble making yourself sit down and write. I think this is completely natural and this happens to a lot of writers from time to time. It’s good though to get into the practice of overcoming your mind and making yourself write something to walk yourself through it. Just the mere practice of writing alone can develop into a concept or idea. Procrastination can be one the biggest obstacles in a writer’s life. If we keep putting off our own writing needs, then a week can turn into months,...
read moreYou write about your intuitions in your book, Onward Rising. How do you know when you are on the right path in life?
I get asked this question frequently as I think it can be the most beneficial question to ask. Everyone has a purpose. We are always placed in the right place at the right time even if we do not realize it at that exact moment. Sometimes we are put into situations that we would never set out to involve ourselves in and then we find out later that had we not been at that location at that time, we would never have met the intended contacts that we made. When we go with the flow instead of always trying to have our own way, we may find...
read moreRelationship Patterns: Only the Faces Change
Are you seeing reoccurring patterns in your relationships with others? Are you noticing that you are encountering similar issues with even different people? If you answered yes to either one of these questions then chances are you have a relationship pattern. A relationship pattern is when we seek the same characteristics in a relationship over and over. We may wonder why our relationships fail time after time when the people we choose are in fact different. The reason they fail is because we keep assuming the same role and seeking...
read moreChange is Not an Option… It’s a Direction
Making a change in your life can be one of the most difficult challenges. Perhaps you are changing your location or physical surrounding or perhaps you are digging even deeper and working towards a change in yourself. Often change approaches us and we are forced to adapt. The old shoes won’t fit anymore and it’s time to try on a new pair. Whatever life event that occurs to introduce us to a change, think of it as not an option, but a direction. If it wasn’t for change we would never advance or we would never seek out a...
read moreWant clarity? Write it down.
It doesn’t matter how old you are or how balanced you think your life is, we can all benefit from taking a few moments of quietness to ourselves and writing down our thoughts. Let’s face it life changes daily. We encounter various obstacles from time to time that guide us along our paths. We may not understand the change that occurred at the time, but let us know that there is always a reason and a universal intention that carries us to a greater level. For all that is lost, more will be gained. We might lose money. We might...
read moreDon’t I need to shop my story around before I can publish it?
Sure you can opt to take this path and contact publishing houses and likely get discouraged if it is not accepted and then decide to not publish your story. Not to say that overnight success does not exist or instant acceptance to a publisher does not occur because it does happen, but not for everyone. You have to determine how much control you want over your book and how much time and energy you are willing to put into it. Are you the type of person that doesn’t mind getting your hands dirty? Or would you rather have others make...
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